Death dating vs planned obsolescence
Yet the round-robin of sex and intermittent attachment doesn’t look like much fun.
If you’re one of the many who have used an online dating service (among those “single and looking,” more than a third have), you know how quickly dating devolves into work.
You cannot be sure where things are heading, but you try to gain experience.
If you look sharp, you might get a free lunch.” In Future Sex, another new examination of contemporary sexual mores, Emily Witt is even more plaintive.
For an activity undertaken over such a long period of time, dating is remarkably difficult to characterize.
The term has outlasted more than a century’s worth of evolving courtship rituals, and we still don’t know what it means.
The purpose of dating is not much clearer than its definition.
Before the early 1900s, when people started “dating,” they “called.” That is, men called on women, and everyone more or less agreed on the point of the visit.
By 2012, the situation had basically reversed: 78 percent of men and 67 percent of women were unmarried at that age.
“I had not sought so much choice for myself,” she writes, “and when I found myself with total sexual freedom, I was unhappy.”of a dating revolution.
The sheer quantity of relationships available through the internet is transforming the quality of those relationships.
Witt, an intrepid journalist and mordantly ambivalent memoirist, looks forward rather than back.
With no serious boyfriend in sight—“love is rare,” she writes, “and it is frequently unreciprocated”—she set out to examine alternatives to a “monogamous destiny,” eager for a future in which “the primacy and legitimacy of a single sexual model” is no longer assumed.
Theirs is the “last generation,” Witt writes, “that lived some part of life without the Internet, who were trying to adjust our reality to our technology.”Weigel, a Ph. candidate in comparative literature at Yale, embarked on her charmingly digressive, nonacademic history of American dating after being strung along by a caddish boyfriend torn between her and an ex-girlfriend. “It did not change gender roles and romantic relationships as dramatically as they would need to be changed in order to make everyone as free as the idealists promised,” she writes.